The Pursuit of Happiness
Have you ever thought about what the best way might be to pursue your idea of happiness? Is it a method of life, a lifestyle? Or something to be mindful of in a moment to moment awareness?
In the Declaration of Independence (USA) we are reminded of our right to pursue happiness. That it is a self-evident truth. Yet how many of us listen to or follow our sense of happiness? Yes, things outside of ourselves cannot give us happiness, yet it is their presence that sometimes allow us to express our sense of happiness. While walking my dog Vanilla, I am reminded of how much being in nature on a crisp, autumn day creates a sense of happiness and contentment.
The study of happiness and what causes a person to feel happy has been going on for a long time. Probably as long as the history of humankind. There are blogs (other than mine), websites (www.livehappy.com) that support the pursuit of happiness.
When did it become the norm or the accepted social expression to be negative or depressed? Show your optimism and you may be labeled a “Pollyanna” and your input discredited as being whimsy. Some people believe showing emotion in conversation can be viewed as being unreasonable. I have had the experience of people telling me I was not being realistic because I was not getting caught up in the fear of their reality. What ways have you been dismissed for being happy? Perhaps you dismissed someone else’s happiness as unrealistic?
In my work I like to ask what percent are you open to living a happy life. A fulfilling life? A satisfying life? These are all important components to a life that feels blessed. We all have blessings in our life, but to feel blessed may be different.
If you are not sure what helps you feel happier, I have a few suggestions:
- For those who like to make lists, when you recognize you are feeling happier or happy, write down what helped you recognize your happiness.
- Think back on when you were between the ages of 9-11. What did you like doing? What did you want to do? This age range is often when people are pursuing what makes them happy.
- Set a time for 10 minutes, use your mobile phone as a timer if you wish, that way it is silent while it ticks away. Have a piece of paper or use your laptop or tablet. At the top of your document /paper write the Title, What makes me Happy. Or perhaps what helps me create more happiness. Always remember you are the creator of the happiness. For 10 minutes write what makes you happy. It can be as simple as watching the night sky, warm cookies, kittens..
Let your days begin with a deeper sense of what makes you happy. Then you can co-create more successfully what feeds your sense of happiness.